Should You Have More Children?
The Reality of Motherhood
Being a mother isn't always a walk in the park. You're sleep-deprived, maybe you get mastitis, and suddenly everything is a mess. The question is: Can you handle it and still find your way back to a life where you thrive and can open up? Or do you fall into the trap of thinking that if you just have another child or a dog, everything will get better? Because let's be honest, in Denmark, people often have children in quick succession, typically two children under the age of six, who are constantly fighting. And if you've also got a dog who was supposed to teach them to be kind to animals, it ends up with the dog biting and the children fighting over it. It's chaos.
Seeking Advice and Facing the Truth
I've advised many women who ask, "What should I do?" I often reply that it can be hell until the children are older and stop fighting. So maybe you should wait a bit before bringing more living beings into the home. We women can easily fool ourselves into believing that more children automatically mean more happiness and harmony, but that's rarely the case. There are just more who are pooping in the corners. It's not that having children can't be wonderful, but we've reached a point where the absurd notions we women have are starting to fall apart.
Challenging the Myth of Self-Raising Children
Some still believe that if we have a third child, the children will raise each other in the pack. But that just doesn't happen. Maybe 100 years ago, when Mom locked the door and went to work, and the children were forced to fend for themselves, but that's not the case anymore. Today, children don't raise each other; they fight. And if you, as a parent, don't have the energy to show them the way, things go completely wrong.
The New Generation and Cosmic Connections
I also observe that the children who are born now have a much greater soul connection and higher consciousness than before. Many of them are more connected to their cosmic origins, but that also means they need help to handle life on Earth. So, having an extra child to "complete the pack" is not the solution. A child is not a vase that you can place to complete the decor in your life. So, if you're considering having another child, you really need to take the time to reflect on it.
A Year of Meditation and Reflection
A wise woman once said that if you're considering having a child, sit down and meditate on it for a year. And while that may sound extreme, there's truth in it. It's not about getting carried away by a biological urge or a fantasy you've seen on Instagram with perfect, organic families. There's often an immature impulse behind the desire for more children – a longing for something that doesn't necessarily come from bringing more little beings into the home.
Children as Independent Beings
When you stand there dreaming about a life with children, be aware that it doesn't always turn out the way you imagine. Children are not here to fulfill your fantasies about how things should be. They come into your life as independent beings with their own personalities and needs, and you will face contrasts and challenges you didn't see coming. Your child is not here to fulfill your wishes – you can create something together, but the child is not an extension of you.
Letting Go of Idealized Visions
Let the fantasies about the perfect life with children fall apart. The more you cling to an idea of how it should all be, the more disappointed you will be. The children will give you a run for your money, and that's part of the awakening we women must go through. It's not nice, but it's necessary. I've been through it myself, and I know how hard it can be to let go of the ideals. But when we dare to let it all collapse, we can find a new way forward – a way where we meet our children and ourselves in all our imperfect beauty. For more information listen to podcast E38.
