Equality Between the Sexes and Attraction
Equality between the sexes is about men and women having equal rights and opportunities in society. It is about eliminating discrimination and creating a society where gender does not matter in relation to opportunities, rights, and duties. It is all necessary and good. In practice, however, equality can kill polarity by confusing equality with polarity in intimate relationships. Cultivating polarity is about embracing and appreciating the differences and consciously cultivating how these differences can enrich and enhance sex life, while maintaining, maintaining, and caring for equality in duties and responsibilities in the home.
The Confusion Between Equality and Sameness
The confusion between equality and sameness can undermine the polarity in the relationship. When we strive to be the same in all parameters because of the sexual revolution, we can end up killing the poles and risk blurring the differences that make us exciting to the opposite sex as intimate partners.
The differences that create attraction and sexual tension between us become washed out in everyday life when everyone has to take on all roles and be equally good at everything. In a relationship, this can lead to sexual attraction disappearing as we become project managers instead of lovers.
We especially see feminine-oriented parties become very frustrated that the other party does not take enough responsibility in everyday life, and it kills the sex drive. Likewise, we see masculine-oriented parties become frustrated that the feminine pole ceases to be inviting.
Over time, this can lead to frustration, anger, and contempt for the partner, and the sexual encounter becomes more and more forced and eventually non-existent. It is about balancing polarity in bed with equality in general, without losing any of them in the process. It requires an open and honest, ongoing dialogue about duties in the home as well as inner work with what stands in the way of opening up again.
Polarity and Gender Roles
Polarity is therefore not the same as traditional gender roles. It is not about the man being dominant and the woman submissive in the home. In bed, she may be into surrender, and he loves to take her (or vice versa). This can also play out between the same sex in homosexual relationships, where one party typically prefers one pole over the other. Working with polarity is about awareness of the poles as well as how everyday life and other factors play a role.
It is about finding a balance where both parties can express their masculine and feminine sides freely together and play them out at the right times, where they are enriching for the individual and the community, while the attraction in the sexual is still preserved and nurtured. The potential is a beautiful dance between the poles, where on the one hand we nurture equality and shared responsibility, and on the other hand create a space to be different.
The Most Important Differences Between Equality and Polarity
Equality focuses on fairness and equal opportunities, while polarity focuses on attraction and dynamics between the poles.
Equality is about removing barriers based on gender, while polarity is about appreciating the differences between the sexes and enjoying the differences.
Equality can be achieved through societal changes and attention to the fact that responsibility is distributed equally in the relationship, while polarity is cultivated in personal relationships.
Creating a vibrant and deep relationship requires both equality and polarity. Equality creates a foundation of respect and justice, while polarity brings spark, excitement, and depth into the relationship. The art is to combine both in a beautiful dance.
