Energy Work in Parenthood

A Natural Extension of Parental Guidance

Energy work in connection with parenthood is something I see as a natural extension of the work I have done for many years, where I helped parents understand their patterns and emotional reactions in interaction with their children. Back then, it was very much about advising on how to stand in the difficult situations as a parent when your child triggers you, and what patterns arise. Many parents could see the patterns, but then came the big question: What do I do when I suddenly freak out? What do I do when I'm worried? It's a big problem for many, because they know that the worry affects their children, and it disturbs the child's energy field. But then they start worrying even more about not being able to stop the worry. And then you run in a negative spiral.

Energy Work as a Tool for Breaking Patterns

I have personally stood in that frustration as a mother, especially when my child was younger. The more helpless your child is, the greater the tendency you have as a parent – especially as a mother – to take over-responsibility. When I started working with energy work together with you, I discovered that it was a fantastic tool. It could very quickly help to break the patterns where you repeatedly bang your head against the same wall. It is about finding the precise places in the nervous system where you are stuck, so you can work yourself free of the reaction patterns that appear in the interaction with children.

From Awareness to Action: Overcoming Automatic Reactions

For many parents who have already mapped their patterns and know where they are triggered, the next step is often unclear. They see how they react in situations with their children, but they feel trapped in an automatic reaction. They know that when their child behaves in a certain way, something begins to happen inside them – and they can see it coming, but they cannot stop it. It's as if they are gripped by a force they cannot control. And it is a feeling I recognize from my own parenthood.

Feeling Powerless Against Your Own Reactions

You may be able to relate to situations where you feel like shouting at your child, freaking out, or just breaking down. You can see it happen, but it's as if you are powerless against your own reactions. You don't want to do it, but your body and your emotions take over, and you end up repeating the same patterns. It is a feeling of being trapped in a train that just keeps going, and you know that it will end up in the same place as always.

My Personal Experience: The Need for a Shift

I have experienced it on my own body. There were many situations with my son where I could see it all happen, but I didn't know how to stop it. I had to work my way through it the hard way, because at that time I did not know that energy work could help. I really wish someone could have helped me in the way I now help others.

Recoding the Nervous System: A New Approach

Energy work has become a shift for me. I have always mapped patterns and worked with trauma, attachment, and emotional reactions. It is something I have immersed myself in over the years, and I have tried many different therapeutic methods on my own body. I have worked to understand my feelings and reactions. But the next step is about recoding the nervous system. This is where energy work comes in. It is about creating space in the nervous system to react differently.

Concrete Solutions: Moving Beyond Waiting

Many parents feel that they do not have time to wait for them to slowly get control of their reaction patterns. They do not want to waste several years flipping out or collapsing under pressure. They want concrete solutions, and energy work can precisely help to solve the deep, ingrained patterns that cause us to react automatically in situations with our children.

Finding Balance: From Trigger to Presence

For me, the shift happened when I realized that I could learn to feel my feelings, control my reactions, and readjust myself when I stood in the difficult situations. It was a tough process, but I found that I could sit with my feelings, let them move through me, and then act in a way that created a better relationship with my child.

What I can now see with energy work is that I not only help people understand their patterns, but also help them to readjust their nervous systems so that they are no longer trapped in the old reaction patterns. It is about finding the balance between what triggers you and the place where you can stand strong in love and presence – without flaring up or collapsing.

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