The Intentional Man: Mastering Relationships Through Focus
3 Key Pointers:
Choose one woman and maintain your focus on her - even when it gets difficult.
Develop the ability to sense locked states in your body and your feelings, identify locked thought and behavior patterns.
Focus your intention and slowly but surely clear up everything that locks and tidy up your life so you don't let yourself be distracted when you choose to focus on her.
11 Tips:
When you lock up inside, take responsibility and correct the situation by any means possible. Make her aware that it was your lockups, and make her aware that you will take responsibility for them. Do something!
If you only talk about doing something - without doing it - she very quickly loses confidence in you over time, the desire for sex with you will disappear. Her body shuts down. If you can't stand the distance and keep falling out and not acting, you should end the relationship to take care of her and her heart.
Never hold a woman back with empty talk about self-development because that is what you know she wants to hear.
Be open and allow yourself to show her your deepest vulnerability, even though the risk is that the woman may end up condemning you and rejecting you.
Keep your heart open - even when she rejects you - find the love in your heart and hold on to the fact that you want her.
If you fall into discussions about who is right and who has "problems", then lift yourself out of it - instead use energy work and solve your own first.
Give her plenty of space and never pressure her to open up.
Never whine about not getting enough sex and that she should "work with herself" because she "has a problem". If she is closed sexually, you must address your own shit first.
You must dare to want her as if you really wanted her - even when she shuts down - and you are welcome to seek her out, but with respect for a rejection. You must be able to handle this rejection.
Never use Tantra (and similar methods) to open her sexually without you also wanting her fully from the heart and wanting a deep dedicated relationship with her.
Use practices such as energy work, therapy and meditation to understand and work with difficult feelings, states, and thoughts that can be painful and difficult to handle.
