Projection in Narcissism
Projection is a defense mechanism where a person attributes their own negative feelings, thoughts, and traits to others. It's an unconscious process where the individual refuses to acknowledge undesirable aspects of themselves and instead projects them outward.
The Purpose of Projection
Maintaining a positive self-image and avoiding painful self-reflection.
Justifying negative behavior toward others.
Controlling and manipulating others.
Examples of Projection in Narcissism
A narcissist who is unfaithful may accuse their partner of infidelity.
A narcissist feeling inadequate might belittle others' achievements to feel superior.
A narcissist who is manipulative may accuse others of being manipulative.
Projection Creates Confusion and Frustration
Experiencing projection can leave you feeling misunderstood, unfairly treated, wrongly accused, and confused, leading to self-doubt. It's difficult to distinguish between the narcissist's projections and reality. Seek help!
Handling Projection
Understanding that projection is central to narcissistic behavior is crucial. Set boundaries and refuse to accept projections by saying, "I won't take that on board." Protecting your mental health might require distancing yourself from the narcissist, sometimes going no-contact.
Resources: Dr. Ramani Durvasula, Professor Dr. Sam Vaknin and Dr. Lundy Bancroft.
